I have just arrived home from my cousin’s walimah, alhamdulillah everything went smooth. I have a fantastic plan tomorrow; some of my close friends will come to my home for celebrating eid together. I really can’t wait for tomorrow’s event.
Anyway the thing that i’m gonna write isn’t about it. It is about what happened just now when we were at new-opened Carrefour at Bandar Tun Hussein Onn. I went there to buy few things for tomorrow’s event. When we were at the toys section, Kauthar requested to play with a bicycle there. However, instead of riding on a bicycle, he opted for an electric motor bike. But the motorbike located at the middle rows of the bicycles and motorbikes rows. Kauthar tries his very best to bring out the motorbike himself while other kids just watch him doing that. I didn’t give any hand to him. After 2 minutes, he finally succeeded to bring out the motorbike, as he tries to sit on the motorbike, suddenly a ch1n*5* boy (age around 4) came and step on my feet and push Kauthar from the seat and rides on the motorbike. I am so angry to see that thing. Please don’t expect that i would just stand silent to such manner. Kauthar has struggled to bring out the motorbike and even if its not us (yet), the impolite manner of that ch1n*5* boy is really intolerable! Guess what i did (please don’t misunderstand this, i am not proud to do this thing) : i went to that ch1n*5* boy, i took him off from the seat and then i put Kauthar back on the seat. I wait for the ch1n*5* boy parents to come and(maybe) shout at me. Few seconds later, the mother come and talking in cant***5* to me with high tone, and other chin*5* around laughing!I knew that she was talking bad to me, therefore I said to her :
I know u saw everything yet u just let ur son did that and u don’t even say sorry, ur son is very impolite. He shouldn’t push my son, even if he was so desperate to ride on the bike, he or u can talk nicely to us and we will hand the bike to you! Please teach your children with manners, and for you, if you are dare enough to confront me, speak in language that i can understand, not being a coward by talking in the other country’s language..and perasan as they are your language! You cari makan, tidur beranak dalam Malaysia, bahasa u bahasa Malaysia, bukan bahasa cant0n***/ma*d4r1**..kalu u bangga dengan ur native language and so embarrased (stupid) to speak in malay or english, please leave this country and go back to ‘that’ country, and see whether peaple there will accept you, the descendents of people who ran away from the ‘main land’ while others are struggling for lives!
That lady then apologized to me using BM(Tau pulak cakap BM).I know i have went over the line. Many of other ch1n*5* heard what i said, i don’t mind about what they would say or think about me. I cannot accept such rude manners from both mother and son! Why must the mother maki me in ch1n*5* language? I don’t even hurt her son as the boy did to Kauthar! And things get worst when that lady did such thing.
I have experience same thing many times before (ch1n*5* kids being rude to me)
Incident 1 : UKM, PPBSBT (Pusat Pengajian BioSains dan Bioteknologi) elevator
We were rushing to the DK111F for next lecture (Microbiology). I used an elevator and inside there was our Prof, me and 2 ch1n*5* ladies. While in the elevator, the two ch1n*5* excitedly talking in cant***5* while me and the Prof were just listening. Their conversations sometimes includes some big laughs too. I can see the Prof’s face, he really feel annoyed to that.
When we reached the lecture hall, i found out that those two ch1n*5* were also taking the course.before beginning the lecture, the Prof said something related to the previous incident :
The Prof Said : Next time if you are happen to be in situation where you are with somebody whom are not same race/language with you, please speak using the language that can be understand by all, if the conversations is so important to you and worth your life that you cannot postpone it even for minutes. Else, just stay silent and don’t talk, if you find that it is so difficult or harmful or life-threatening to speak in other language than your native. Unless your conversation can be misunderstand as a bad conversations, whether you are condemning or talking bad about people around you. Who knows, right? At least, give some respect to people like us (Profs and lecturers) when it comes to such situation. I am now declaring that all my students are prohibited to speak in your native language during my class, except for English, BM and Kelantan accent as i understand and use those 3 language.
My says : I couldn’t agree more to the Prof.
Incident 2 : Giant Taman Connaught
We were at the toys section
Suddenly a twin ch1n*5* boys riding on bicycles came an they rolled my feet and (other malay parents too-coincidently kot).. with bycicles. That was really painful. The parents saw that but they did nothing!.
After 20 minutes, they play police sentry and suddenly they yeeled “excuse me…excuse me…” to other shoppers there, and they pushed anyone who bloched their way. I heard another malay man shout ” who’s children are that?mak bapak tak ajar ka?” and the parents of the twin heard that, but again, they did nothing!
My Says : Yes, why do they all seem like not teaching manners at all, the pnly thing they care is : money/ eat/ pig!
Incident 3 : Jaya Jusco Balakong
I waited for my husband at the roof gate, while Aisyah is sleeping in the stroller and her hand grabbed the stroller frame. Suddenly a ch1n*5* boy came while pushing the trolley, and hit the stroller, and after he corrected his trolley after the hit, he ran away and the trolley’s side frame hit Aisyah’s tiny fingers. Aisyah scream out loud, and the boy and his whole family heard that, but they just ran away. I really turned to an evil monster that time. I screamed to them, but they ignored that. I decided to wait at the side of the main lane, waiting for their vehicle. I won’t forget their ugly faces forever! They took 45 minutes to get out from the parking lane! I bet they are afraid of me, they know that i am expecting for them. Therefore they wait until 45 minutes to came out. Unfortunately for them, i was still standing there when they accrossed. As many cars are queing, i went to their golden color Toyota Estima, and i knocked the window, and i asked the lady to came out. She came out while her mouth ramblings in chinese. I asked them to apologize to me and Aisyah. At first she refused to do so. But as the cars behind keep horning and the secutiry guard came, i explained everything and the security guard urge the lady to apologized. She finally apologized (unwilingly, i know). I took the van’s plat number and reported teh incident to police.
Please don’t judge me as a racist, as i am not one of them. I believed that we muslim own a very big obligations to give good examples to th non-muslims in order to dpread the syi’ar Islam to them. However, based on the situations told above, most cases here happen to be they are underestimating and humiliating us in their own cynical way. My own opinion, they must be taught a lesson for their bad manner (that might be inherited from generations in their bloodlines!)
P/s : Let us Muslim together learns the other native language in Malysia.. so that they cannot memperkatak kodokkan kita using that language!
mmg sllu camtu..i mmg geram kalo mak ayah yang tak reti nak ajar anak beradab n bila anak buat salah2 sah2 dah , buat bodo je…
but orang islam kita pun ramai je berkelakuan camtu..malu mjdi org islam…
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Salam Salwa,
Apa awak buat tak salah pun. Bangsa derang kalau kita buat kat derang, 1000 kali dia marah kita balik tau.
Berani salwa menegakkan kebenaran. Bagus salwa. Org kita selalunya malas nak panjang2 cerita, tapi bangsa derang selalunya nak kita bayar “cash” on the spot kalau kita buat salah kat derang. Kita bukan nak jadi racist, tapi ini kenyataan hidup. Cuma ada sesetengah org je tak mau terima kenyataan hidup ni. Orang derang pun suka gak ngutuk bangsa kita nih.. bukan kita tatau pun..
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i think its not about race, but its more of religion & ethics kan? my MIL is a chinese, but she is more sopan me. my grandma is siamese, but she is more sopan & ladylike than any malay lady. the matsalleh i meet here smiled to me more than any smile i receive from asian i faced on the street of melbourne.
the thing about our life today, ramai people now are to focused on life due to our capitalist norm, so religion, ethic & empathy di ketepikan. janji tembolok sendiri diutamakan.
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honey, i would do the same thing if i were u!i mmg pantang tgk bebudak yg kurang ajar…mmg i akan ajar cukup2. even dgn anak sedara i pun i akan tegur kalu x betul.
mmg berbulu tgk mak bapak yg buat x tau ni. as if they expect other people yg tlg betulkan anak diaorg. bila kita tegur, melentinglaa pulak..
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Pak Su Reply:
September 27th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
Dah jadi hakikat bangsa sepet ni memang asalnnya dari yakjud dan makjud. Banyak contoh yang kita boleh lihat di mana saja si sepet ni lalu abih hutan dan bukit dibogelkan.We can see not only in Malaysia also others contry arround the world. Please think …….
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salwa Reply:
September 28th, 2009 at 5:15 am
Shaza, tu la yg i geram dgn depa ni.kalu kita silap sikit..teruk kena ‘belasah’ sampai kat court bagai..kalu dgn bangsa depa bole je depa settle bbaik.memang depa busuk hati terhadap Muslim ni.
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hmm…
saya yang mengajar sekolah majoriti kaum diorang ni, memang hari2 duk ulang ayat, “kalau nak duduk di sini, belajar cakap bahasa malaysia…”
sampai dah tak larat nak naik angin bila kita cakap, diorang tak faham. atau kita sendiri tak faham apa yang diorang nak…
pernah tulis di sini;
http://syayassir.wordpress.com/2009/09/10/bahasa-melayu-atau-bahasa-malaysia/
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salwa Reply:
September 28th, 2009 at 5:22 am
Couldn’t agree more to u dear. mcm yg qay ckp, org Islam pun ramai je camtu…actually yg menentukan sikap manusia ni ialah didikan agama masing2.kalu c1n4 muslim for instance, sgt2 disiplin, sopan santun, bagus2 belaka..i tgk depa berbuka puasa exactly menurut sunnah Rasulullah..i am so impressed!
mcm caucasian, depa mmg sgt ethical.most of them yg mcm tu menamalkan akhlak yg depa pelajari dari aama mereka, yg mana sebenarnya mereka copy dari Islam.
budaya bangsa tanpa landasan agama yg menyebabkan jatuh bangun identiti bangsa tu.sebab tu bangsa alone cannot stand without pegangan agama yg kukuh.
mcm u ckp tu :
ramai people now are to focused on life due to our capitalist norm, so religion, ethic & empathy di ketepikan. janji tembolok sendiri diutamakan.
mmg hari ni semua org menjadikan semua tu as priority smpai tak kisah hal lain.
thanks so much for your very brilliant idea
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salwa Reply:
September 28th, 2009 at 5:13 am
Yes Qay, u r correct.
kalu org Islam buat..memang tak bole tolerate…memalukan sungguh
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bagus awak buat gitu…
kami kalau melayu sekali pun yg buat..siap le depa kena sound
sebenarnye c1n42 le ni yg teruk2 perangai nya… yg kebykkannya penganut kristian [terutama penyokong D*P]
depa memang memusuhi Islam… di luar mereka buruk2 kan Msia dan org Islam di Msia…[pernah tulis kat blod pasal tu]
kat luar negara c1n42 memang teruk.. sebab tu depa tak ramai yg berrjaya dalam bisnes.. sebab depa suka merasuah, kotor, kurang ajar… org putih dah maju .,.depa tak suka tu semua.. kalau depa sebut “Asian” tu refer tu mata2 sepet tu.. bukan org Melayu/Islam
Melayu/Islam kita di Msia ni perangai buruk sebab ikut/terpengaruh ngan perangai c1n4 tu…
pasal kedai2 makan dan produk makanan kat msia.. dah byk c1n4 tipu dan guna nama melayu…customer mereka melayu.. tapi kalau melayu main balun je makan dan tak pikir.. tu le jadi buruk perangai …makan benda kotor… dari cara c1n4 hassilkan produk tu [yg teruk la kan.. bukan c1n4 muslim atau yg hormat org melayu/islam..]
kami dah ade kat msia ni pun lebih berhati2 beli produk makanan.. kerana wujud nye jenis c1n4 yg tak tau diuntung dan nak menipu org Islam…
byk premis makanan yg kepunyaan depa yg kami rasa nak muntah je lalu tepi….hehheh
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haaaa………… kak salwa da naik hangen…
hehhe… saba je la….
akak kira cukup bagus le sbb berani nak pertahankan anak..(mybe sb da 2 anak kan??)
kalau jadi kat saya.. agaknya saya mesti mengalah je.. sbb malas nak bergado…. tapi yela… berat telinga mendgr … sakit mata lagi pada yg menengok kan??? hehhe… tak tau la kalau jadi kat anak saya depan mata.. saya pun bertukar jadi singa betina…
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kak rizza saya baca entry kak rizza tu masa akak publish n sangat sakit hati! depa menabur2 fitnah ttg Muslim kat orh luar,,apa motifnya?
kalu org Islam tak nampak lagi tak tau la
depa ni dah rasa tak secure sbb tu buat mcm tu + nak bagi org luar bencikan Islam pun ye juga
yg ttg hal makanan tu la yg plg tak bole tolerate, sy tak paham camne ada melayu Islam yg mudah je masuk n makan kat sebarang premise/restaurant…kononnya mereka kaya n mampu makan rest mahak, padaham daging ayam pun tak sembelih
nak muntah sungguh…
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jaja
akak ni kan kalu dgn c1n4 ja akak ghajin nak gado2
tp dgn org kita akak malas
hehehe
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frankly speaking, im very impressed with the way u handled all situation. So far i’ve never encounter such rudeness from any kids but your experience does open up my eyes and mouth on the way to react. tapi itulah, u were just lucky that the ppl from the 1st incident didnt do anything to u. coz u’d never know what those crazy ppl boleh buat bila kita bukak mulut sket. orang skarang ni rata-rata gila. hidup mati ape dia nak kira janji puas hati. jadi kena berhati-hati. papepun, i still envy your braveness. bravo ibu kauthar.
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salwa Reply:
September 28th, 2009 at 8:32 am
Nur
welcome to my humble blog
please come again ya
anyway thats the point
i wonder why they just play like ‘oh theres no big deal’ bila anak2 oit of manner
bukan sekali dua jadi camni
hehe
thanks for sharing ur precious thoughts with us
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salwa Reply:
September 28th, 2009 at 5:17 am
Paksu, thanks for commenting. kakyong pun penah dgr ada ulama’ mentioned exactly like ur says.sebab bangsa depa ni mmg perosak alam + pengganas + perosak akhlak dan mereka makan apa saja makhluk yg boleh dimakan!
cuma kalu depa Islam ja depa selamat..mcm sepet2 yg muslim semua bagus2!
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cik wa
i memang banned akif dari bermain dengan toys di toys area if we have no plan to buy it
i keep telling him..those toys are not our..Allah marah main toys orang tanpa izin..and it’s work for him…
tapi macam biasa diakana ank bekas ketua pengawas..dia akan ke toys area then cakap apa mommy cakap..wahahahaaaa
and…i memang tak suka kanak-kanak play with toys yg giant/tesco whatever jual..for sale not for play…buy and play..itu akak la yaaaa
2ndly bab itu rude2 people aa…derang ni sebenarnya memang tak ada manner….dalam erti kata lain bodoh bengong!
btw..akif kata
“baby suka baby girl sebab dia folo me…tapi baby boy dia rebut helicopter baby nak pinjam jaa.”
kahkahkah
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